Irene – when desire meets procrastination
Background: A successful corporate professional with rich interests outside work – family, friends, cooking, travel – yet she delayed retirement for four years despite compelling reasons to leave.
The paradox: Irene’s life map showed her company occupying the largest space, with numerous areas marked ‘less’ – indicating insufficient time for friends, art, travel, and fitness. Still, she repeatedly postponed retirement dates.
The identity struggle: Though claiming work was “what I do, not who I am,” her behavior revealed a deeper attachment: “People do respect you while you’re still working, and after… maybe not so much.”
The breakthrough: Organizational changes increased stress beyond her tolerance. She made two major changes: retiring and relocating with her husband to their Cape Cod vacation home.
The outcome: Within a year, Irene consolidated a satisfying retirement life through new friendships, deeper family relationships, and ocean conservation work. She began calling herself “an ocean person” – a new identity emerging from her restructured life.
Key insight: Fear of retirement can persist despite logical reasons to leave, requiring examination of identity attachments beyond work itself.